Perspective! Wow, that is a game changer. When things are challenging; looking for the message, the meaning, the lesson. Not easy but it is a muscle that builds as we use it. The pain of the challenge is nothing compared to the pain of, what I like to call, the Groundhog Day syndrome. That’s when you don’t learn the lesson the first time and need to “learn it” over and over. Each time the lesson gets stronger and more fierce.
Do you know what I am talking about? It feels like a hammering. In coaching it is the “seeing” and then the telling the truth about it so that by exposing it you then release it and can move on. When you do that, and it repeats, it is less charged and has less and less impact and eventually that layer of the onion is peeled. This feels a little out there. Hope you all know what I am talking about.
For me personally, the perspective that I am seeing the situation from makes all the difference. If I can’t see it because I am too emotional then I will take a walk. Looking at things in the world, being present to them, even naming them (car, bird, flower, cloud), is a walking meditation and can put you in the present immediately. It is the past and future thinking that causes us so much stress. When you are up against it, some issue, the present is the most important place to be and sometimes the hardest to attain.
Try to connect to the present by walking or meditating. Disrupt your thought patterns. If you ever need guidance let me know. That is an excellent reason to have a coach – build the muscle of perspective and shift your attention to doing something in a new and different way to get different results!
Happy, happy Tuesday. Get outside and “see” what is around you!