Perspective! Wow, that is a game changer. When things are challenging; looking for the message, the meaning, the lesson. Not easy but it is a muscle that builds as we use it. The pain of the challenge is nothing compared to the pain of, what I like to call, the Groundhog Day syndrome. That’s when you don’t learn the lesson the first time and need to “learn it” over and over. Each time the lesson gets stronger and more fierce.
Do you know what I am talking about? It feels like a hammering. In coaching it is the “seeing” and then the telling the truth about it so that by exposing it you then release it and can move on. When you do that, and it repeats, it is less charged and has less and less impact and eventually that layer of the onion is peeled. This feels a little out there. Hope you all know what I am talking about.
For me personally, the perspective that I am seeing the situation from makes all the difference. If I can’t see it because I am too emotional then I will take a walk. Looking at things in the world, being present to them, even naming them (car, bird, flower, cloud), is a walking meditation and can put you in the present immediately. It is the past and future thinking that causes us so much stress. When you are up against it, some issue, the present is the most important place to be and sometimes the hardest to attain.
Try to connect to the present by walking or meditating. Disrupt your thought patterns. If you ever need guidance let me know. That is an excellent reason to have a coach – build the muscle of perspective and shift your attention to doing something in a new and different way to get different results!
Happy, happy Tuesday. Get outside and “see” what is around you!
Recently I was invited to be an alumni panelist at an upcoming USC event on May 29, 2019. It's going to be a great event and the topic is: Journey Towards Wellness: Integrating Joy in Health. As I prepare, it's got me thinking: what does wellness really mean?
To me it means that you are actively making choices toward a healthy and fulfilling life. Living a life with fulfillment comes from developing your full potential, your inner dreams. I so often talk about putting myself on the “back burner” which is the opposite of fulfillment. My life just took over and was “living me” instead of me living it.
Does this sound familiar? It can happen in a lot of different ways. For some it can be a great, but highly demanding job that just takes over your life and you don’t even realize it until maybe your health starts suffering. For me it was taking care of those I love. But let’s just say my oxygen mask was nowhere to be seen (remember on the airplane they say put your mask on first then put the mask on others who need your help). Health isn’t just living free from dis-ease (disease). It is living in a complete state of physical, mental, and social well-being.
That is where being conscious comes in. Making the choice to put yourself on the front burner. And still taking care of those you love, working your dream job, etc. . . . living from purpose. Hard at first but it is a muscle and it gets stronger and stronger the more you use it.
So often when we are younger, we have our goals that are driven by passion, excitement, and energy. It is unlimited potential, coming from vision and the “I can do anything” belief. As we get older, some things we have accomplished, some things we put down, some things we fell short, and some things got buried under doing for others (spouses, kids, family, friends) and OUR dreams and development were put aside. To see this truthfully is exciting because then we can redirect our energy and intentions to include, bring back, dig up what is important to us. It is like a GPS – if you don’t know where you are, you can’t set the destination. You have to enter your position and then you can put in where you want to go. That trip there, it is the joy!!!
So the journey to wellness is living your purpose, consciously, choosing to live from your most present, intuitive self in the trek to your full potential.
I’d love to help you in your journey! Drop me an email (here) and we can have a free chat to see if coaching could be right for you. I’m also working on my next course which will be open in a few weeks (click here for a preview). And if you’re in the Los Angeles area and would like to attend the USC event on May 29, click here for more info.
I have always been very grateful that I have good parking karma. Hahahaha but true!! Going back to when my kids were very little whether we were going to Disneyland, the grocery, the mall or even school and I was going to need a space, I would say: “Okay guys, get your parking karma on. Think about my spot. Bring it in so when we get there it is ready for us”.
It worked every time. I just always knew I am going to get a spot on the crowded street or in the packed lot. Sometimes we would drive in and literally the person in front of us was pulling out. Sometimes I would have to circle and watch people walking to get it. But either way, it was the knowing that it would happen without a doubt that is the power.
This is an important question: what would you be doing if you knew you couldn’t fail? The how and when are in faith and trust but the knowing it is going to happen puts you in such a state of calm with relaxed, focused energy. In coaching we also call it clarity, focus, ease, and grace. When I am doubting or things aren’t happening NOW (my inner toddler being impatient) I think about my parking karma. I picture the thing I am doubting and I focus on it working. I create the KNOWING it is going to happen and then I take an action toward it.
Action is also a key ingredient. It is not a passive wanting but an active knowing. I know it can be a challenge when you are in a full-blown doubting fit. I have been there!!! When it is a fit, I do my meditation (even if I have already done it that day, I do it again!!!) then, when I am nice and clear, I focus on the knowing.
Meditation, breath, taking authentic action (not just being busy), coming from our life’s intentions (the things that have deep meaning for us), our standards of integrity, vision, etc. are tools I use in my life and when I coach.
If you need help finding your “parking spot”, please reach out to me. I would love to help you and I’m here for you!
Start with the above video for instructions, practice daily with the meditation video below.
The sublime you. What a word. How different would your day be if you came from the place of:
The meditation this month, The Creative Meditation of the Sublime Self, is tapping into that. Your “you-ness” so that you can take advantage of opportunities that present themselves, know what to do, use your intuition! Getting into the flow of your potential.
Have you ever had that feeling? Losing track of time, being so engrossed in something that it feels timeless and effortless? As a tennis player I can remember being in the zone, where I felt unstoppable, like I could do no wrong and as an actress too. Coming onto the stage and wham, just being so in that world, that afterward you don’t even really know what happened. You weren’t on the outside checking in with yourself, how’s it going? You were just totally in it.
We want the ability to put ourselves in the zone, to have more of these moments of creating, being fully present and in it, experiencing the flow.
So why do we come out of the zone or flow? Well, for me it is the monkey mind. The worry that starts to question instead of trust and doubt instead of have faith. That is the muscle we have to build and strengthen. Then we can redirect that worry and doubt to faith and trust with action. This meditation will help build that muscle.
It is a two-part meditation.
First tune in with Ong Namo Guru Dev Namo,
sitting with a tall straight spine.
Then move the hands, alternating hands, from the heart center to 45 degrees toward the floor. Move your hands alternating, as fast as you can without touching your chest or hitting your hands. You should break a sweat here, go fast!!
Then bring your hands together with pinkies touching.
Then place this open flower-like position, in front of your heart center with your eyes gazing at where your pinkies are touching.
Inhale through the nose and, as we exhale, we will repeat HARIANG eight times. You can follow along with me. Inhale through the nose and exhale saying HARIANG 8 times. If you can try to roll the r so that it is touching the pressure point behind your front teeth. Do your best with this.
Enjoy and keep it up for at least 40 days and 90 for this one if you can! Let me know how it goes!!!
Yogi Bhajan said:
You know when they say that “when you are ready, a teacher will appear”? Well, for me that was Yogi Bhajan and Kundalini Yoga and meditation.
When I was 8 or 9 years old, my mom was into Transcendental Meditation (or TM) and she had me meet with the master. I was given a word and I was to practice this meditation twice a day for 20 minutes. Every time I did it, I fell asleep! Which probably was what I needed and also probably what my mom needed (Hahahaha. Love you Mom!)
I had then and still have now a lot of energy! So then flash to many, many years later when a friend asked me to go along to a Kundalini Yoga class. When the meditation involved a Mudra (hand position) that was moving and a Mantra to chant out loud . . . Wowowowow . . . I was just blown away. I didn’t have to sit still or be quiet.
Now in Kundalini, not all of the meditations are moving or out loud but a good number of them are and I tended to gravitate to those. For me that was the gateway to stillness! As the years have gone by, my body now just relaxes when I sit cross-legged on the floor. It’s ready, willing, and wanting that mental break, the calm, the stillness, and clarity that comes from doing the meditations.
This a worthy thing to do for yourself. That is why I am giving you guys a Kundalini Meditation every month. I want you to do them; to see, experience, observe, and quiet the loud chatter that goes on between our ears and distracts you from your path, purpose, the present, and all the goodies that are ready for you to step into. Is it the only way to quiet that mental chatter? No, but for me it has been the most powerful and life changing way.