Wow. When I heard Brene Brown say,
“If you avoid conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself”
I nearly ran off the road. That is just so profound. If you are like me, a recovering people-pleaser, then maybe you will relate to the weight of this comment.
I love it too, in terms of coaching because we are always talking about the monkey mind (our worry, doubt and fear) and how that affects taking action. When we are consumed with monkey mind, in this scenario, we would not say anything, hence no conflict yet the war inside begins.
What greater way to challenge yourself and your ability to quiet your monkey mind than to know you need to say something that will create conflict but if unsaid will start a war inside yourself. WOW.
In coaching we also talk about coherence -- acting in alignment with our path, flow, life’s intentions (we get clear on this in coaching). Or incoherence -- making decisions that are not aligned with our life’s intentions. This statement sums up so much about living authentically; being on your “hero’s journey”; coherently making decisions that align with your purpose and observing the gap that occurs when you don’t.
This gap is where coaching can be supportive. When you see what you need to do, are willing to do it, and yet aren’t doing it. Reach out if you need support or have questions. Practice the meditation, the quieting of the monkey mind so that you can “hear” and “see” the small sweet actions you need to take toward your purpose.